W4L4: Pain+Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique & Script

Overview & Purpose

  • Pain+Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique
  • Be a Sacred Witness
  • Employ the Pain+Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique

Duty of Care:

  • You have a duty of care to yourself and your Dyad partner
  • I have a duty of care to each of you
  • If you find that you are out of your comfort zone or skill level in the midst of a process with your Dyad partner, safely pause the process and contact me
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  • Intention: Practice
  • Please do not take on the responsibility of offering advice to your Dyad partner.
  • If any information arises, share it as it was revealed to you in the spirit of practice.
  • Co-creatively do inquiry around feeling mind process interpretations.

What is the Pain+Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique?

In Week 2, I shared the advanced Somato-emotional release Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique with you. This week, we are learning to convert any physical pain into information that can potentially lead to discovering the truth for an individual at that moment. When physical pain (not to be confused with a psychological problem) and the distress caused by the intense stimuli and the injury-related sensory and emotional experience arises, you can use the Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique by engaging directly with the physical pain.

Your goal is to detect when your Dyad partner has moved away from the Feeling Mind to the Thinking Mind. Always gently invite your Recipient back into the Feeling Mind so that the process can continue. Otherwise, the Thinking Mind interrupts and can stop the process.

Your intention is not to make someone’s pain disappear, although it can become diminished.

Your second goal is to invite your Recipient to shift their thinking from believing that their pain is exclusively limited to their physical body. Please encourage them to adopt a mindset open to exploring that they have a problem with a painful physical characteristic that validates their present experience. Once they understand that their pain obscures the root emotional, mental or spiritual issue, they are ready to go on a journey through the Pain+Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique.

The allopathic definition of pain:

  • It is a symptom
  • It is a subjective experience for the individual
  • Physiologically it is transmitted through nerves in response to damage or potential damage to physical tissues

The Four Major Types of Pain:

  1. Nociceptive Pain: From tissue injury
  2. Inflammatory Pain: Inflammation caused by an excessive response by the body’s immune system
  3. Neuropathic Pain: From nerve irritation
  4. Functional Pain: Pain without obvious origin but can cause pain

Physical Pain:

The Pain+Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique will lead your Recipient to their truth and liberation, whether physical pain, emotional pain, mental or spiritual pain is manifesting. Start by not being afraid of someone else’s pain. Instead, move into your compassion by opening up a dialogue with their physical pain in the same manner as using the Stuck-Fear-Truth technique but adding a step at the beginning to convert their pain into its root emotion.

During the experience of physical pain, embrace this moment as an opportunity to connect to a hidden gem that is creating problems in the ‘soma’ body tissues (including bones, ligaments, muscles, connective tissues and organs). Then proceed with the Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique.

The Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique is quite simple, so don’t let this become a cerebral process. The idea is to intensify and magnify pain’s physical sensations to push that energy into the Emotional Body, returning to its root emotion. Pain can sometimes connect to an ancient trauma, so be gentle but persistent. Hold a safe space. We can’t be hurt or re-traumatized by visiting an older trauma.

Pain on the physical level is an indicator of being at the densest frontier of the human experience. An unresolved issue can start at a spiritual, mental, or emotional level, leading to physical pain. Ignoring it is most difficult when the physical body becomes involved. That pain can include the manifestation of an injury or illness, i.e., burning your index finger when you are not feeling safe or angry. There is a great deal of personal protection when physical pain occurs.

To proceed into this technique, it is paramount that the Recipient feels safe.

During this process, the Recipient can slip into a deepened, even altered state, a body-mind connection where emotions and physical sensations come together to create deep healing. Stay present, listening and guiding with minimal dialogue until they resolve.

Permanent change can and often is the result of the process. This technique benefits anyone with any problem.


to the fragile feelings,

not the clashing fury…

to the quiet sounds,

not to the loud clamour…

to the steady heartbeat,

not to the noisy confusion…

to the hidden voices,

not to the obvious chatter…

to the deep harmonies,

not to the surface discord.

Listening Skill

3 Steps to Convert pain to its Root Emotion

Step 1:

Ask your Recipient if they would like to get to the root of their presented pain?

When presented with a Recipient who is experiencing physical pain, you have the option to invite your Recipient to take their process to the next level. 

Pain needs to be intensified and magnified just enough to help the Recipient breakthrough to their emotional experience, happening simultaneously.

Step 2:

You will guide your Recipient to use their mind (intention and mindset) and body together to bring additional energy to their pain’s precise location.

From this point, tell them to imagine they are pushing (through intensification and magnification) their pain from the physical location into their subtle emotional body.

Step 3:

When this begins to happen, they will experience the eruption of emotions and or images, sounds, sensations, thoughts and memories.

  • Start the dialogue of inquiry using the Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique
  • Remain grounded and calm
  • Remember, you are a Sacred Witness, and your job is to hold a safe space for healing.

Pro Tip:

  • Remain in your Feeling Mind, riveted to your Recipient, so you don’t miss the creative arrival of the Thinking Mind.
  • When the Recipient slips into their Thinking Mind, their process stops, and an old narrative takes over. The only way back into the Pain Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique process is to intensify and magnify the pain until it shifts again into the emotional body, where the Feeling Mind is available.
  • Just remember to be gentle and kind.
  • Remember, please be gentle and don’t expect yourself or your Dyad partner to be proficient immediately. This technique requires focus, mindfulness, present awareness of your Recipient, and it takes loads of practice.
  • Becoming an attendant to your Recipient’s Pain is a great honour. Remember that they connect to suppressed energy that has found its way into their physical body as a final frontier to get their attention.

3 Stages – 3 Leading Statements

Stage 1: 

Find out exactly where their pain resides in their body

Pain+Stuck-Fear-Truth Technique Script: 

Sacred Witness:

How does the PAIN in (name location) make you feel? Repeat and finish this statement – The Pain in (name location) makes me feel…


The pain in (name location) makes me feel…

Sacred Witness:

And how does that make you feel? Repeat and finish this statement – I feel…


I feel…

Transition point – Edge of Fear State – When your Recipient first encounters their fear, often they retreat quickly to the circular pattern of the Thinking Mind making it necessary to invite them back to their Feeling Mind.

Sacred Witness:

What are you afraid of? Finish this statement: I am afraid that…


I am afraid that…

Sacred Witness:

And how does that make you feel? Repeat and finish this statement – I feel…


I feel…

Sacred Witness:

And how does that make you feel? Repeat and finish this statement – I feel…


I feel…

Transition point: Their process begins to shift on the edge of the fear.

At this point, their fear is hidden, but it suddenly feels palpable, seeking acknowledgment and release.

Stage 2:

Sacred Witness:

What are you afraid of? Repeat and finish this statement – I am afraid that…


I am afraid that…

Stage 3:

Sacred Witness:

What do you really want? (In other words, what is your Truth)


All I really want is…

Stage 4:

Moving from knowing your Truth to living your Truth by recognizing its relationship to your authenticity

Make a Declaration of Truth

Sacred Witness:

How does your life change when you show up as the AUTHENTIC YOU?

Repeat and finish this statement:

When I show up as my authentic self, my life changes in that I…


When I show up as my authentic self, my life changes in that I…

There is no worksheet for this lesson.